Happy December!

Dear Quiet Minds,

Happy December to all!

As I prepare for my finals this week, please enjoy these pictures to get yourself in the festive mood.



Next week you will get the blog post you deserve. For now, pray for me.



An Open Letter to All Girls


Dear Quiet Minds,

This is a message to girls of all ages, especially those independent girls in college who are trying to earn a place in this world.

In the wake of Thanksgiving, I’ve been spending a lot of time with my extended family, as one should, and I realized just how blinded they were by the female stereotype. In the weekend before thanksgiving, my grandparents and cousins came over and my mom had asked me to help her squeeze lemons into a container to make a sauce. As I did what she asked, my grandpa proceeded to say “We need to find Jackie a man who can do that for her.” Although I knew he was joking, my eyebrow raised so high it almost flew off my face. In a rush of surprise and annoyance, I snapped at him and said, “I don’t need a man to do anything for me, grandpa. It’s 2017,” and proceeded to squeeze those lemons with all my might. The second he said I couldn’t do something, I felt an obligated to finish the task without anyone’s help. Although I know that our grandparents can be stuck in their old ways, it was just so surprising to hear those words directed at me. I have lived twenty years of my life without a boyfriend. Why do I need one all of a sudden?

On Thanksgiving, we had yet another occurrence. My aunt had asked for the help of strong men, meaning my cousins, to help her put out the tables and chairs. My sister and I immediately said that we could help as well. We followed her to the garage and from behind I heard my cousin’s partner whisper, “let’s take the tables and they can take the chairs.” Another big mistake, of course. My sister and I heard the comment and went straight for the table. We both picked it up and told the boys to get the chairs. We took the table all the way outside and set it up with no help. It was astounding how weak people can make you feel when they use the female stereotype as the norm. In the comfort of my home where the only male is my dad, I had never felt like I couldn’t do something. The female stereotype was nonexistent to me. However, when surrounded by my extended family, I found myself having to disprove the female stereotype time and time again.

For all you women out there that have to deal with these comments constantly, just do what you want. If you want to put out the tables by yourself, then put out the table. If you want to make a huge family meal while doing all the heavy lifting, then by all means do so. Don’t let those comments make you feel weak or incapable. Although you shouldn’t have to prove yourself to anyone, sometimes it’s just fun to show people what you can do. Don’t let your future be rooted in stereotypes. Allow yourself to blossom and snap free from the branches of society.


And men, if you have read this far, see women as your equal. Not an object or weakness, but as a person who is as capable as you are. Don’t give them such a hard time because if you tell them they can’t do something, you better believe they will do it.





Thankful for Miracles


Dear Quiet Minds,

I wanted to write a very thoughtful post about the five things I’m thankful for, but amidst a time filled with stress and darkness, it’s been very difficult to be in the thankful mood. I know I’m thankful for life, health, family, friends, but I’ve been buried in so much work that I haven’t even been able to celebrate what I’m thankful for. Every day has become a monotonous routine. I go to the college campus, putting one foot in front of the other. My emotionless pale face adorned with purple bags under the eyes and a permanent frown. It’s like I’m just going through the motions, feeling underappreciated and worthless with every step. When drowning in these destructive thoughts, it’s very difficult to come up with five cheerful items that you are thankful for. Luckily, I found a quote that might be able to lift the spirits of those who are feeling lonely this time of year.

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. -Albert Einstein

When every day is identical to the last and you’ve realized that you haven’t had a proper laugh in a long time, it can feel like nothing is a miracle. You realize that you’ve become that boring, robotic person that you never wanted to be. The fire of your dreams and passions have been extinguished and you’re just hoping for a quick arrival of the weekend. Every Monday is the bane of your existence and every weekend passes too quickly for you to enjoy. Although it is easy to fall into those dark thoughts, we have to stop and look back at everything we’ve accomplished in this quarter, semester or even year. Looking back, I see everything I’ve had to go through: the insecurities, the endless assignments, the inconsideration from others. It makes you realize that even waking up everyday to confront these emotional and physical barriers is a miracle.


Quitters would go back to sleep or push aside their problems. For many of us, however, we are survivors. We have gotten out of bed and entered the battlefield of everyday life, facing criticism, stress, degradation. It’s easy to quit, but it’s a powerful strength to never give up. By looking back at all these little, yet significant accomplishments, I’ve realized just how strong people are. Our ability to adapt and move forward after being battered and bruised by unforeseen circumstances is a beautiful quality to have as a human being.

So, keep being thankful for life, family, friends, your home, your job, but this year be grateful that everything is a miracle.

And most importantly, that you are a miracle.

Thank you for never giving up.


Power of Words


Dear Quiet Minds,

Everyone’s heard the saying “Actions speak louder than words” and yet we all want validation through words. Even the saying itself is so powerful because it’s been said. Despite dismissing the importance of words, we use it as the foundation of our communication. Whenever we say that we’re going to do something out loud, they hold so much power because now they can be held against us. If we don’t honor our words, people see into our character and can call us out on being a hypocrite. It makes us feel a fake sense of obligation to do exactly what we say we were going to do. I often times find myself saying “today I am going to do this, this and this”. Most of the time I only manage to get one thing done out of the billion tasks I listed. It makes me feel ten times worse and unproductive because I did not accomplish what I said I would do. The power of using words to describe your actions is so imprisoning sometimes. If you say step by step what you were going to do and don’t follow it that way, your entire day seems to be disorganized.

This also happens in small, loving acts. When someone hugs you, you feel their love and comfort, but you also wish they could just tell you how they feel. An “I love you” or an “everything is going to be okay” seem so powerful when said out loud. I believe that this has to do with some of our spiritual beliefs. Once words have been said, they go out into the universe. These words somehow enter the “forces” that seem to align our paths and faiths. That’s why when we don’t follow our word, we feel like we’ve lost something. For some reason these words were going to cause the forces of the universe to give you a satisfying and productive ending to your day. However, when you don’t honor your word and the outcomes you wanted don’t occur, you feel like you’ve failed. Unfortunately, this way of thinking is just an illusion. Words don’t have enough power to completely change your destiny and the forces in your life, but because we give it so much power, they are integral to our daily lives. Actions are powerful, but words of affirmation seem to be make those actions concrete.


When we write down our feeling or our list of stressful tasks on a sheet of paper, it never equates to the impact that these feelings and tasks have on us. We want so badly to explain in words what we feel inside, but it’s never enough. The words you use never seem strong enough to describe the inner workings of your chaotic mind. And yet, we use them all the time. We need them. Without words, we feel like our world cannot move forward. If we didn’t say that we were going to do something, nothing would give us the motivation to do it. Ultimately, words have power because we give it to them every single day in hopes that they can change the outcome of our lives. Leaders perform discourses to loud, desperate crowds, priests make their sermons echo throughout a large, picturesque church, teachers lecture in hopes of impacting students, couples talk (or argue) about their problems. We try so hard to solve problems, both big and small, with words.

If only we knew that its power was just a man-made illusion. Words mean nothing, until you give them meaning.


To My Soul-Sister


Dear Quiet Minds,

What’s a soulmate?

“It’s a.. Well, it’s like a best friend, but more. It’s the one person in the world that knows you better than anyone else. It’s someone who makes you a better person, well, actually they don’t make you a better person… you do that yourself– because they inspire you. A soulmate is someone who you carry with you forever. It’s the one person who knew you, and accepted you, and believed in you before anyone else did or when no one else would. And no matter what happens.. you’ll always love them.” -Dawson from Dawson’s Creek

Many people dream of a soulmate, someone who will complete them and understand them in the darkest of situations. Often times, it’s someone you’re romantically linked to. I believe a soulmate can be anyone: a friend, a mother, a father, a sister or a brother. My twin sister is my soul-sister and because of everything she’s done for me, I want to celebrate her life on this very special day.

Thanks for living life with me. Despite the goofy ups and depressing downs, you’ve been with me through it all. When everyone else was against me, you were by my side. When my sarcasm was off the charts and my jokes fell flat, you’ve laughed with me. Even when I felt lonely and lost, you were lost and lonely with me. Life’s left us battered and bruised, but I’m glad we’ve persevered together. No matter how many people are screaming at me and pushing me down, you’re always the hand that catches me. Whenever I have crazy ideas or anxiety and end up venting all night, you join me in my venting. Despite how tired we’re going to feel the next morning, you always listen to me.

Listening is an impossible gem to find nowadays. People dig and dig for it, hoping to strike gold, but never find it. I never even had to start digging. From the first day of life, we entered the world together and just like that I got an automatic best friend. Many things in life never come easy to us, but getting you was the easiest thing life has ever given me and ultimately, the best. I have someone who understands me with just one look, someone who laughs at my jokes no matter how stupid and someone who cries with me in all the hard times.

Without you as my soul-sister, life would be bitter and incomplete. So, thank you for existing and inspiring me to pursue my dreams. Thank you for pushing me to create this blog and for never making me feel like l don’t have potential. You are the strongest, sweetest and greatest person I know. I admire your kindness with others and your contagious laughter. And I can’t wait to see what you accomplish in your lifetime. Because just like you’ve been there for me, I have been and will always be there for you.

Happy Birthday!


Comment below who’s your soulmate!

A Series of Unfortunate Events (SPOILERS)

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Dear Quiet Minds,

In honor of Halloween, I wanted to talk about the magically dreadful Netflix original series, A Series of Unfortunate Events. This is the story of three children, Violet, Klaus and Sunny Baudelaire, played by Malina Weissman, Louis Hynes and Presley Smith respectively, who are orphaned after their parents parish in a house fire. Unfortunately, their parents left behind an incredibly large fortune and a dangerous secret. In the first episode, they meet their first guardian, Count Olaf, played by Neil Patrick Harris, whose motive throughout the entire season is to take away their family fortune. His mysterious eye tattoo seems to be tied to the telescope Klaus found in the ruins of his destroyed home. The children discover Count Olaf’s scheme, but every adult they tell is ignorant and useless. The adult’s ineptitude is what leads to the suffering of the children.


From the beginning, the story is narrated by Lemony Snicket, played by Patrick Warburton, who implores the audience to stop watching immediately. He bluntly tells us before every episode that the Baudelaire’s story is an unfortunate one and will not have a happy ending. However, like when parents tell us ‘no’, we still go right ahead and watch, stubbornly hoping for a happy ending anyway. Just like that, the audience, whether an adult or not, becomes a child who roots for the trio as they battle the ignorance of the adults around them. When the Baudelaires hear the news about their parents, they are told by Mr. Poe, a naïve banker whose only care in the world is getting a promotion. From the start, they are introduced to one of many useless adults in the story. Mr. Poe is immediately tricked into turning the kids over to Count Olaf, which sets off the first problem that the children must overcome. When they go to Count Olaf’s house, they meet his neighbor Justice Strauss who seems like their salvation. She is sweet, loves books and incredibly caring; however, Count Olaf easily tricks her into helping him with one of his schemes. Unfortunately, it would make more sense if Count Olaf were actually intelligent, but in reality, he is much more a child than the children are and yet, is still able to trick Mr. Poe and Justice Strauss.

The children are moved from one close relative to the next, never having a stable place to call home. Once they are taken from Count Olaf’s care, they meet Uncle Monty, their rightful guardian, but Count Olaf disguises himself as Monty’s new assistant. However, it seems like no one is able to see passed Olaf’s disguise except the children. After the unfortunate event at Monty’s, the children move in with their Aunt Josephine, a “fierce and formidable woman” who is no longer fierce and formidable. She is controlled by her irrational fears, and when she goes out for groceries, she returns with a new boyfriend, Captain Sham, who turns out to be Count Olaf in disguise (surprise, surprise). Klaus, Violet and Sunny try to escape from Count Olaf, but it only results in an unpleasant boat ride and once again, another unfortunate event. After two losses, the children escape to a lumber mill where they are put to work and are ultimately left with no guardian. At this point, we start expecting the worst.

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In this inverted world, Violet, Klaus and Sunny have to create their own family and parent one another in hopes of becoming stronger people. The setting throughout the series is very colorful and dreadful at the same time, like a storybook come to life. The children’s bright and colorful attire contrasts with the flatness of the world around them. It shows that the children, representing life, talent and intelligence, are battling against the selfishness and pure hate that is Count Olaf. This series even goes as far as to highlight blunt ironies like the following: Every adult in the series is called by a title (Count, Mr., Justice, Aunt, Uncle) never a first name, which emphasizes the fact that the adults highly value the power they obtain from being an adult, but never take responsibility for their actions. Even the eye motif that is present throughout the story represents the constant eye that these adults have on the children and yet their undeniable blindness. It becomes so overwhelming to the point where this series may as well be called “A Series of Incompetent Adults.”

As the story progresses, we see the hypocrisies of life through the children’s eyes. It shows us that despite all the negativity in their lives, they are becoming strong individuals who have not been blinded by the disease that is adulthood. It gives us hope that they might be able to stop this ignorance.

But unfortunately, this tale is all sorrows and woes.


If you want more, there’s an amazing analysis of the series on YouTube by ScreenPrism:

Anthem Lights’ Painted Skies (2017) Album Review

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Dear Quiet Minds,

On Oct. 12, Anthem Lights released their new original album, Painted Skies, with 11 new songs. Anthem Lights is a Christian band with four members, Caleb Grimm, Chad Graham, Joseph Stamper and Spencer Kane, who release covers and original songs on YouTube. Although I am not very religious, I felt like this album was extremely relatable to people of all faiths who are struggling with difference and intolerance. Overall, this album embodied a theme of positivity, hope and uniqueness. Each song had a message that, although different, tied perfectly to the rest of the songs in the album.


The first song in the album was called “Painted Skies”, but rather than a song, it was more of a one-minute introduction to what the album was about. Each member of the band talked about how their experiences as a father, married man and confused walker of life shaped the songs in this album. It showed how every experience was a brush stroke that filled up this canvas called life. In the background, the humming of their voices combined into a beautiful harmony. By placing this small introduction, I felt like I was able to connect with the artists more and understand how important these songs were to them. The song that came after this was one, “Who I’m Meant to Be,” was one of my personal favorites. It started slowly and gradually elevated into a powerful and upbeat song that really encouraged people to be proud of their uniqueness. This theme of juggling our differences followed in the next song called “Good Fight”. The next four songs, upbeat “Better Together”, slow “Automatic Love”, acoustic-filled “Working On It” and romantic “Keep You Close”, focused on falling in love and working on loving your partner, which reflected the different stages of a romantic relationship.

The next two songs, “Says Who” and “Nobody’s right”, resonated with me because their empowering messages encouraged me to want to break away from conformity and from what people tell me to be. We don’t have to fight and be right all the time because the world is filled with unresolved, gray areas. The tenth song was called “You Will Always Be My Son” which was primarily sung by Caleb Grimm who recently had a baby. This song really made me emotional because toward the end of the song, Caleb’s soothing voice was accompanied by that of his talented wife, Kelsey Grimm. The fact that their son could, later on in life, look back at this song sung by both his mom and dad is a very beautiful thought. The final and eleventh song, “Falling Awake”, was a very powerful ending to the album. It showed how when you are with the people you love, you discover a new world filled with beautiful truths that illuminate the light in our lives. The soothing music makes you hang onto every word and fully understand the purpose of Painted Skies.


Overall, the entire album was filled with upbeat, lighthearted songs along with deep, romantic ballads that exemplified the beauty of uniqueness. It highlighted the importance of being with the ones you love and allowing the happiness within yourself to flourish. The harmony between these four members was perfectly combined, soothing our ears and minds throughout the entire album. Every song had a message that perfectly tied to the unified theme of loving life no matter what.

So, if you’re interested, definitely take a moment to go to Anthem Light’s YouTube channel (https://www.youtube.com/user/AnthemLights) and support this amazing band.

Let this music be a constant reminder to love life, people and, most importantly, yourself.



Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them (2016)


Dear Quiet Minds,

On Friday, Oct. 20th, the British Library is having an opening to celebrate the release of J.K. Rowling’s new book, Harry Potter and the History of Magic. According to Pottermore, the exhibition will feature 100 amazing artefacts from Rowling’s wizarding world, including illustrations by Jim Kay, the illustrator of the Harry Potter Illustrated Editions, sketches and drafts from J.K. Rowling and objects from the Hogwarts classes. Ultimately, it will be celebrating Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone’s 20th anniversary. Due to this amazing opportunity to spread my love for Harry Potter once again, I decided to watch Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them and give my thoughts on it. This analysis may contain SPOILERS so definitely don’t continue reading if you haven’t watched the film.

Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find them (2016) was directed by David Yates (who directed the later Harry Potter films). It takes place in 1926 New York when a British wizard named Newt Scamander (Eddie Redmayne) arrives by ship with a suitcase filled with magical creatures. After he accidently switches cases with a Muggle, or No-Mag in America, Jacob Kowalski (Dan Fogler), his creatures all end up loose and Newt goes on a journey to return them all to the case. During this, he is also being pursued by a demoted Auror, Tina Goldstein (Katherine Waterston), for not being a registered wizard, but soon enough, Tina and her sister, Queenie, (Alison Sudol) eventually help him. Meanwhile, an unknown creature, who we later come to find is called an Obscurus, is on a mysterious killing spree.

One thing I love about J.K. Rowling’s work is her ability to layer lighthearted scenes with dark and complicated elements, creating a seamless parallel between our society and her magical world. In this movie, I felt like her characters were very unconventional which added to the depth of her story. For instance, Newt Scamander, the main protagonist, is a Magizoologist who is quiet, sensitive and vulnerable. He connects with his magical creatures more than he connects with people; however, he still garners a deep empathy and understanding for people despite his lack of friends. His masculinity does not fall under the stereotype of a witty, independent, strong male lead whose violence and insensitivity is accepted. Instead, Newt is a Hufflepuff, much different from the brave Gryffindors, and his actions are guided by hard work and loyalty. As the story progresses, Newt’s relationships with Tina, Jacob and Queenie subtly strengthen as he learns to open himself to friendship. The fact that J.K. Rowling decided to place this unconventional male character as her lead demonstrates her acceptance of all people and personalities. There’s not one type of hero, but an infinite range of heroes within everyone.

“My heroes are always people who feel themselves to be set apart, stigmatized or othered. That’s at the heart of what I write and it’s certainly at the heart of this movie.”
-J.K. Rowling

Another aspect I loved from the films was Rowling’s ability to move from light, childish scenes filled with comedy to dark, mature scenes. For one, the Obscurus, which is created when a young wizard suppresses his or her powers, highlighted a dark element of society. The Obscurus demonstrated the dangers of fearing your potential and bottling up what’s inside of you. It symbolizes repression and isolation due to the fear of intolerance. Many people can relate to this type of repression imposed by society. Rowling really grabbed the heart strings of closeted people, lonely people and anyone who lives in constant fear. This intolerance is also reflected in her setting, where the nonmagical world is becoming overly suspicious of its people as the Salem Witch Trials popularize. Wizards have to hide from the nonmagical world and stay away from the No-Mag community. In the magical world, however, the character of Graves, or more accurately Grindelwald, is high on power. He believes in wizard blood superiority and wants to suppress those without magic. Even the word No-Mag highlights the key difference between people and wizards: magic. Meanwhile, the British term Muggle is more friendly and inclusive. Thus, emphasizing the prominent segregation in American history. Although Rowling depicts it through her world, it places reality in front of our eyes, showing us that segregation and intolerance run deep in the United States.


Despite this sad reality, Rowling always offers us hope through the introduction of Newt’s world, also known as his magical suitcase. Within the case, animals can be themselves and roam free without being suppressed or controlled. Their chaos and difference is welcomed, which is reflected in the beautifully lit scenery in Newt’s World that contrasts with the dark outside world. Rowling shows us through a simple, yet deep story that although intolerance is at the surface of our lives, difference and acceptance are always there to keep the hope alive.

At the end of the film, Jacob Kowalski’s memory of all his adventures with Newt is obliviated and he seems to wake up from a dream, just like the audience. It’s very bittersweet. We want to be a part of Rowling’s world, but at the end of the film, realize we never can. But why, after all these years, does the Harry Potter realm stay so deeply in our hearts? Isn’t it fake? Isn’t it all just happening inside our heads?

“Of course it is happening inside your head, Harry, but why on earth should that mean that it is not real?”
-Albus Dumbledore


Kindness: The Savior We Need


Dear Quiet Minds,

“Kindness is loving people more than they deserve.”
-Joseph Joubert

For anyone who was born in the 1990s, weekly shootings and imminent danger threats have become common occurrences. Every day, we turn on the news to find that more people have lost their lives and it’s something we’re accustomed to at this point. Why is this becoming a weekly trend? Why is the news full to the brim with death and hate? It makes no sense that one person should decide the fates of 59 innocent lives. Mere hate and depression should not be the lead causes of death in the United States.

Unfortunately, in a country where we claim to be open and loving, many people still remain in the shadows of loneliness, looking for a weapon to let out their anger and hatred. Their hands are found around a gun ready to pull the trigger on themselves or on others. It’s sad to see that this hatred has been trending throughout the United States. Limiting gun control might be a way to stop these tragedies, but it might also be a useless attempt. People driven by enough hate will find a way to get their message across. Please, if you need a weapon, use the flowers of kindness and its seeds of compassion rather than a gun and its bullets. In a world so chaotic, we don’t need more violence. The only way to battle hatred is through the act of loving each other.


It’s heartbreaking to see death and hatred becoming our reality. I hope that in the wake of the recent tragedy in Las Vegas, we take a step forward toward self-love and unity, rather than remain stagnant in a fire of anger. For those that are in a dark place whether it be because of the tragedy or because of self-hatred, seek love and help from others to persevere. And for those who are consumed in their own exciting lives, remember those who aren’t as fortunate as you. If you have a friend that is reserved or a friend who is hiding under a fake smile, go up to them and show them your love. Not everyone is fortunate enough to have love seeping through every pore of their life. Some people live in constant darkness with few occasions of flickering hope. I hope that this tragedy pushes us to open our hearts to those different than us and lend our ears to those desperate for someone to hear their voice.

Many of these shootings and suicides can be prevented when parents talk to their children, when friends invest more time in that awkward kid at school, when people care just a little bit more. One extra word or silent hug can be enough to persuade someone to love rather than hate. Those who don’t deserve your love and attention are the ones who need it the most so make enough room in your heart for all strangers.

And to all those families affected by the tragedy in Las Vegas, we hope you turn toward love and kindness for they are your true saviors.


Price of Modesty


Dear Quiet Minds,

I believe that modesty is not about downgrading your worth and accomplishments but knowing yourself well enough to neither overestimate nor underestimate yourself. It’s about knowing the value of your merit but still believing that there is always room for improvement. It’s a way of checking yourself. With modesty, you have no fear of becoming arrogant because you know that although you do your best now, you can always do better. But sometimes I wonder if modesty ever becomes a weakness. I don’t like to boast about myself and when other people start boasting about themselves, I usually just let them have it, but there’s always this prickly sensation in the back of my mind that just wants to shut them up. Not because I feel like I’m better than they are, but because there comes a moment when a person is so arrogant that they start degrading your problems. They exaggerate everything and when you try to put in your two cents about the situation, they have no respect for your opinion and completely dismiss your comment. The problem arises when your modesty doesn’t allow you to put them in their place sometimes. When is it okay for you to bring forth your merit in order to diminish their ego?

Often times, I feel like being modest makes it more difficult for me to take a compliment or even talk about my accomplishments. When is it okay for me to confidently say “yes I am good at this”? It’s difficult to know because you might say it and later be accused of arrogance. This fear of being negatively labelled is enough to stop you from speaking out. But what if that arrogant person is a good friend of yours who just likes to talk a little bit too much about themselves? Even when you try to get a word out, they put your problems aside and start comparing it to their much-more-important problems. It may just be a sign of their confidence, but we have to realize that there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance and many people dangerously walk that line. They put one foot in front of the other in hopes of staying on the rope and getting away with arrogance disguised as confidence. It’s not so much their wrong choice of moral that annoys me, but rather their need to degrade people.


Everyone lives different lives and have different-sized problems. A small problem for one person can be a massive problem for another. It’s all about the amount of stress that a person can cope with. So, when you’re talking to an arrogant person about a problem that is affecting you severely, their failure to listen and sympathize is a blow to your self-esteem. Although we know that we should always give without expecting anything in return, you always expect love and respect from the people you care about. Unfortunately, arrogance pushes aside love and respect in order to make its way toward the center stage. Whether a person has a large or small degree of arrogance, it shouldn’t be so overpowering that one cannot listen to others. It’s always a good skill to exude confidence, but it’s an even greater skill to truly listen.

No one should have to pay a price for modesty. Make it a strength, not a weakness.